I have been in the darkness and wondering when the light of day will come. My mother died just over a month ago and it is so hard to carry on with the normal day to day. If you have recently lost someone, be that through death or a different ending of a relationship, my heart goes out to you.
My energy just… went. I had little enthusiasm to do most things. I haven’t been to the gym and have been eating rather too many puddings. I wanted to have great ideas and put them into action, but it wasn’t in me. I had to hunker down for a while.
A few song lyrics haunted me:
“But I still wake up, I still see your ghost
Oh Lord, I’m still not sure what I stand for, oh
What do I stand for?
What do I stand for?
Most nights, I don’t know anymore”
(Some Nights, Fun.)
I had lost and I felt lost. The ending of an important relationship means we have to redefine ourselves in this brave new world.
For me, I have found discovering meditation extremely helpful. Through the perfect timing of the universe I attended a Mindfulness for Coaching course which included an introduction to meditation practice. I knew I had a shining light inside of me. Through unsteady steps into meditating each day I have tuned into my light and feel it’s healing and reassuring presence. I feel a settling and a gradual returning of my energy.
Ideas are beginning to flow again and I even got to the gym this week. The grief still cuts like ice some days. I miss my Mum. A lot. It’s tough having such intense feelings. I am thankful that I have people in my life who can sit with me in my grief and don’t try to stem the tide of my feelings because it makes them feel uncomfortable. So I cry and get snotty and then feel better for a while.
I realise that one of the valuable things I can offer to my clients is to give them a safe space to unpack difficult emotions and to really listen to their story. There is a lot of loss in this world and it’s good to know we are not alone in working through it.
I know this is my journey and that everyone’s journey through grief and loss is different and that’s ok. If the darkness wasn’t there, how would we recognise the light?
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