“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
Somatic coaching to reclaim your power and renew your relationships
Work with me to know and trust yourself, be authentic in your relationships and know new joy in life again.
This is only for those who are serious about changing their life forever. Using my SMILE methodology, we’ll work on:
SELF-DISCOVERY
Meet your True Self
Self-DiscoveRY
This is how you find your True Self, the YOU underneath those people-pleasing patterns. It’s understanding how people-pleasing has impacted your life, where they have come from.
You have spent so long giving your beautiful attention to everyone else in your life. It’s a quiet revolution to bring that attention to yourself, to notice what you want and gradually build a solid foundation for how you want your life to be.
Together we address faulty thinking, limiting beliefs, inherited programming and stories you’ve believed about yourself and life that aren’t true.
You will no longer be buffeted around by what others tell you and their expectations.
Instead you will know what is important to you, what lights you up, what brings you joy.
MIND-BODY CONNECTION
Coming home to your body
Mind-Body Connection
Discover the enormous intelligence your body holds.
People pleasing patterns are held in your body, as a response to threat or as a trauma response.
Those automatic reactions of getting smaller and trying to be invisible, of feeling unable to speak, supressing anger – it’s all in the body.
So that’s why we work at a somatic, or whole mind-body, level, as well as the cognitive work.
Have you ever had that experience of ‘knowing’ at a cognitive level that it’s okay for you to speak up, or set a boundary, but you can’t manage to do it?
It’s because your mind has learnt something new, but your body hasn’t – yet.
You can’t simply tell your body ‘it’s okay now’. It doesn’t understand verbal or mind language. It is only by learning to speak the language of the body that you can create internal safety to soften those protective people-pleasing parts enough to show up in a different way.
Together you will discover how to gently and compassionately integrate those parts of you that have been lost or suppressed. You will come home to your body and learn how to heal your nervous system.
INNER-CHILD HEALING
Be the parent for yourself that you always wanted
Inner-Child Healing
This is coming back into relationship with that part of you that is innocent, perfect, creative and where your true emotions lie.
When everyone is born, they are born perfect. And so were you. This is about finding that child that still lives within you and giving them what they were missing. It doesn’t matter that it’s years later now, you can learn to re-parent yourself.
Working together, you will build for yourself an emotionally safe container, re-connect with your inner child, learn how to be with, identify, validate and express your feelings, and ind fun and joy again.
LOVING BOUNDARIES
Know, value and communicate your limits
Loving Boundaries
Boundaries are how you take care of yourself in the world. They help you know what is okay for you and what isn’t.
When you’ve been stuck in people-pleasing patterns, you will often have weak or diffuse boundaries, which leads to saying ‘Yes’ to too many things, taking on other people’s problems, feeling responsible for others feelings, getting overwhelmed and feeling exhausted.
The work we do together is learning the language of boundaries, how to identify what boundaries you need, how to communicate them firmly and respectfully and how you hold onto them when you encounter pushback, challenge or ignoring of your boundaries.
EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION
Clear, strong, honest communication in a way that works for you
Effective Communication
As a people-pleaser, you may find you use indirect and hesitant language in an effort not to hurt other people’s feelings. You tiptoe around issues, or don’t mention them. You avoid conflict at all costs.
Together we’ll work on options for your communication so that you find ways to be clear and honest, that feel comfortable for you.
That starts with being honest with yourself. Then you can be honest with other people.
You’ll develop a new relationship with conflict. Conflict doesn’t have to be destructive force. It can clear the air and actually help us develop greater intimacy from sharing our truth.
Effective communication is where you take your boundary work on the road in your relationships. It will allow you to take care of yourself with other people.
I work with people on some or all of these areas, depending on what you need.
This is your journey and know that you are SO worth it.
WHAT MY CLIENTS SAY…
“My name is Judy and Im in my 60s.
Before coaching I was worried about offending people and I was looking to everyone else for approval.
My coaching ‘aim’ was to find my own voice and start directing my own life.
Fear was (and is) probably my biggest challenge and although I still find this hard I have made progress.
I have made positive steps and changes to the way I think and to the way I respond.
Helen has gently helped me to find my way through a maze of memories that held me back - she let me voice the fear and question it. I immediately felt relaxed, ‘safe’ and unembarrassed talking to her - I am now continuing my personal journey thanks to her guidance putting some of her techniques into practice.
I have no hesitation in recommending Helen she has helped me untangle emotional knots and see clearly what I want for my future.
Therapy/coaching had never been something I thought of before and my first experience has been joyful and of great value to me. Thank you Helen’
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“I started my coaching relationship with Helen as a way to help me grow my own coaching practice after moving to a new country. Helen did so much more than that for me. She coached me through what was easily one of the most hardest, loneliest periods of my life.
Helen helped me work through my transition into a new life, address so many issues that had come up in my relationship and find the confidence to back myself in business and life. Working with Helen was the most valuable thing I have done for myself.
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QUALIFICATIONS
ICF and Association for Coaching Accredited Diploma in Transformational Coaching with Animas Centre for Coaching
ICF Accredited Certificate in Body-Oriented Coaching with The Somatic School
BSc Psychology, Warwick University
Accredited Certificate in Coaching with Trauma
Accredited Certificate in Mindfulness for Coaching
National Certificate in Workplace Mediation
